Highlighting Your Flaws In Online Dating Pans Out
by Owen on Tuesday, February 1st, 2011 - 1 Comment - Adult Personals, Dating, Online Dating, Relationships
Upon creating your very own online dating profile and testing out the waters of adult personals, you might be inclined to present yourself in the best possible light. However, it seems as though that’s not always the best idea. A recent study conducted on the relation between attractiveness and popularity in dating sites determined that when it comes to finding a match, merely being “cute” won’t get you that far. Believe it or not, but after some research, the study determined that women who are portrayed as being “ugly” are actually favored more than their more attractive counterparts.
After analyzing a series of different profiles, the study showed that women who were deemed as “above-average” actually received far less messages than those who despite being rated at “significantly below-average” were also labeled as “above-average”. Given that this pattern was identified time and time again, they were able to determine that women who received varied opinions from men were in fact the most popular.
The study showed that if a man believes that others are not interested, he will assume that there is far less competition to be had. A valid point. With higher chances of succeeding in his pursuit, a man with be far more motivated to message them. In summary, upon knowing that some men don’t find her attractive, the fact that they do, plus the lack of competition will motivate them to take a chance and make the first move. On the flip side, a man who comes across a profile of a bluntly attractive woman will quickly realize that he’ll have a lot of competition and will be more inclined to back away and deem it “not worthy”.
With that said, perhaps the best tip to all ladies (and men) who are venturing out dating on the web, would be to play up your flaws as much as possible. For example, if you have a bunch of tattoos and know that not all men will be receptive to them, be sure to showcase them in all their glory. Just because some men will automatically eliminate you as a possibility, doesn’t mean that the same will apply across the board. In fact, it will significantly increase your chances of finding a match that likes you for exactly what you are.
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