Stop Comparing Us To Aidan From Sex And The City!
by Jimmy Jacob on Wednesday, June 29th, 2011 - 7 Comments - Cheating, Confessions, Free dating, Relationships, Turn offs
I met this remarkable girl on a dating personals page a couple of years ago. She was witty, smart and had a love for horror films from the seventies. We started dating and everything was going great until she uttered these following words: “You’re so my Aidan.”
Now I really wish I had no idea why being referred to a character John Corbett plays on Sex And The City was a bad thing. But, I did and it wasn’t pretty. You see, I’m nothing like Aidan Shaw. I don’t build furniture. I don’t have a wonder dog. I’m a chain-smoker who writes about relationships. Hell, I’m more of a Carrie than my ex likes to think she is.
But after hearing those words, I knew that Mr. Shaw and I had one thing in common–we were both second best to the women we loved.
Trying to hide my knowledge of Sex and the City, I shrugged my shoulders like I didn’t know what she was talking about and then she proceeded to take out her Sex and the City season 3 DVD set and made me watch the show from episode 5 and on.
Now, when there’s an Aidan, there has to be a Mr. Big. Every girl claims to have a Mr. Big in his life and this emotionally incapable douche named John (trust me…from experience, all these guys’ names are John) will somehow mess things up for the men who have the “Aidan” label tattooed on their foreheads.
I have no idea if it was pure coincidence or if she desperately wanted to emulate Miss Bradshaw’s fictional life, (I’m going with the latter) but she ended up cheating on me and leaving me for on and off douche boyfriend, who ironically didn’t want anything to do with her after she was out of a relationship.
Since having my heart stomped on by her, I have been very selective when choosing partners on free dating sites. If they even have Sex and The City as their favorite show on their profiles, I ignore them. (No matter how beautiful they are.)
After watching the show and watching how Carrie somehow ends up with Mr. Big at the end, I realized that delusional women will always think there is a future with their elusive and emotionally-challenged ex-boyfriends because of this god damn show. I was so close to acting like a douche bag myself. I wanted to find a poor girl and dump her without notice while leading her on at the same time. I thought that if I treated women like back-ups, that maybe I would be cared about.
I realized that was beyond stupid.
I’m a good guy…not a NICE guy, but a good one. Hopefully like Aidan, I will be able to settle down with a woman that really appreciates me and we can name our babies after potato products. Unfortunately, I fear that Miss Carrie Bradshaw-wannabe will be chasing the dragon so to speak and will miss her opportunity to be with a good man if she continues to strive for the impossible dream.
So ladies, if you know what is good for you, please stop comparing the men in your life to a show that was primarily written by women and a homosexual man who sold out by providing an ending to a love story that would never happen in real-life. In the end, you will be the ones that will hurt the most and really, who needs that in their lives?
I love Aiden. There is NOTHING wrong with being Aiden. Embrace that shit.
Okay, so I hear where you are coming from. BUT – in our defense – when I compare someone to Aiden, I mean it in a good way. I realize that Mr. Big was TERRIBLE for Carrie, and I always thought Aiden was who she should have stayed with. I think she really messed up. I even wrote about it here:
http://simplysolo.wordpress.com/2011/02/17/why-i-…
So, maybe you can consider it that way, and not rule out all Sex and the City fans. Because if you and I were on our fourth date and I said that, I would mean it in a really good way.
Hey Catherine,
Wow, a woman who can actually see past the illusion! I really enjoyed your blog. To be quite honest, I really like John Corbett as an actor, which is why I watch United States of Tara. I just think he really embodies how a man should be…especially on that show. I just think if women think they are dating an "Aidan," they should only share that with their girlfriends.
You read my blog, so you should know I'm a closet SATC fan. Hell, I admit it and let me tell you something….most guys like it too. They'll never admit it though. I just want to meet someone who doesn't compare themselves to Carrie Bradshaw, because after repeat viewings of the show, she really is quite annoying after awhile. She suffers from chronic disatisfaction and that is draining if you ask me.
Thanks Catherine for the feedback! I really appreciate it!
sweet alictre, this is the side smart men side with when they try to tell girls that their not that asshole guy but totally are. hahahabut inspiring nonetheless- there is hope!
Jimmy,
I think we have SO much in common. I too find Carrie to be annoying and self absorbed. I identify with Miranda a bit more.
Thanks for checking out the blog. You should comment sometime – I need more male input!
Thank you for this hilarious wake-up call about something I totally admit to doing! And if we're on the comparison route, I'd say I'm more Charlotte about to marry her Harry after learning that happiness doesn't come from your crazy idea of the "perfect man".
You are a riot, and will definitely find your "Kathy" – (the name of Aidan's wife, in case you didn't get that super-obscure reference!)
I blog as well, but it's mostly about home-owning and wedding planning, so maybe nothing of interest to you – but rock on fellow blogger!
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