by Jimmy Jacob on Wednesday, December 14th, 2011 - - 1 CommentConfessions, Relationships
Remember the story I wrote about regarding my psycho ex months back? (If not, click HERE) Well, she came back with a vengeance recently and it almost sent my world back into a tailspin. Although I broke up with her YEARS ago, she has never stopped harassing me. It briefly stopped a while ago when she finally had a falling out with my sisters and when she dated a guy with my name. She has definitely been a thorn in side for years and is the reason why it has taken me so long to embrace any social media networks such as Facebook and Twitter in fear of her cyber-stalking me and every girl I date.
Over the years, I had realized that despite how psycho she is, that I would never let her mess with my head. The best online relationship advice I could give to all that have a psycho ex is to simply ignore them. It is hard especially when you have an ex who punches herself in the face and threatens to call the cops and tell them you hit them, but if you give them the attention they seek–they will never go away.
This tactic was working for a little while. I had finally thought she was out of my life for good. However, my psycho ex is far more unstable than I had realized.
A couple of weeks ago, I had received a package in the mail. It was a package delivered to her–and she used my last name as her own nonetheless. Not only did this loon know where I lived, she was also sending herself mail to my apartment.
I had opened the package and saw there were professional portraits of herself–naked. They were as equally sad as they were creepy because they were not flattering in the slightest. She had only gotten uglier and fatter over the years and no airbrush skills could hide that. So what did I do? The same thing I’ve been doing for the past little while—I ignored it.
Last week, I had received a card–this time addressed to me from her. If you don’t know by now, I hate receiving cards from exes, (Click HERE to find out why) but I especially hate receiving cards from psycho exes. I opened up the card (after meticulously listening for a ticking noise) and there in big bold letters read, ‘Did you see what you are missing? I can be your Christmas present and you can unwrap me. Come back to me.’
At this point, I was pissed. I was wondering how she found out where I lived, (which I later found out she stole A Holiday Card I sent one of my sisters to find out where I lived) but more importantly I wanted it to stop. However, I maintained my cool and waited to say or do something the next time.
The next day I received a call from an unknown number. I already knew who it was. My psycho ex sounded all cheery and asked me what I had thought about the package, the card and thought of getting back together.
I lost it.
I told her I thought they were disgusting, intrusive and there was no possible way I would ever get back with her. She then flipped out threatening to get me arrested for opening her mail and that if I didn’t get back with her before Christmas that she was going to kill herself. I then did the best thing I could think of. I hung up. Never, ever let anyone emotionally blackmail you into doing something you don’t want to do . Remember that.
Everything was quiet until I received a text from my now ex, Beth. (who had experienced my psycho ex’s rage years ago as well) She told me that “psycho” had sent her threatening Facebook messages and told her if she didn’t take down pictures with her and I when we were a couple that she was going to hurt her.
At this point I was livid. This had to stop.
The same day, I received a call from psycho again. She had pretended that our last conversation never happened and then said that she had found my Leon Ware vinyl from years ago and that she wanted to bring it over and then we could catch up. This time I didn’t hang up. I told her that it sounded like an amazing idea and that she could come over the next night at 6:00 PM. She sounded excited right before she hung up and told me she couldn’t wait to see me.
Neither could I.
So two nights ago, my ex ended up showing up at my apartment at literally the stroke of six. She had a goofy smile on her face and she was wearing a trench coat. At the front door, she told me she had forgotten my Vinyl record but she was more than willing to make it up to me in the bedroom. I told her to come inside.
Her smile dropped when she saw all her family members from Quebec waiting for her. I had set up a behavioral intervention for her. We had a professional Interventionist help us state what we needed to say to her and she eventually agreed to go back home to Quebec to be with her family while they support her through counseling.
As she left, she did slap me in the face and said, “Are you happy now? You ruined my entire life. “ But the way I see it…..I think I helped her to start living her life. Hopefully in time, she will see it that way.
Now although I wouldn’t suggest anyone else to do this, (unless absolutely necessary) I still recommend to ignore a psycho ex as much as you can. Most times, they will slowly go away. However, if they are doing or saying anything that threatens you or your friends and family, then you have to do something. Don’t turn a blind eye when threats are made.
I understand that getting dumped sucks. It’s painful and awful and nobody enjoys it. That being said, if you are dumped and it’s before the holidays, don’t act like a crazy person. Maintain your dignity. Do you really want to go down in history with your ex’s family, friends, future lovers and possibly your own family and friends as the psycho ex? Don’t act like my ex. The best thing you can possibly do when you’re dumped is to act like you couldn’t care less.
Life is just too short to obsessing about someone who has moved on.
On that note…I am going to take it easy for a bit. I can’t wait until the New Year, I can tell you that for sure!