by Jimmy Jacob on Wednesday, April 11th, 2012 - - 2 CommentsConfessions
Yesterday while catching up on my 25 Days To A Better You Challenge, Nando put his day 9 challenge video up (yes, I am behind–but I will make up for it) and it proved to be the hardest challenge for me to conquer. Take a look below at the video:
You see, I have always been against complimenting myself–mainly because the people I know who do compliment themselves on a regular basis sound like giant douchebags.
One of my oldest friends in the world always comments on how sharp he looks every time I see him. God bless him, but he ain’t no Barney Stinson. In fact his compliments always come off as delusions of grandeur.
My younger sister always says how she loves how she looks in her skinny jeans–despite the fact that her muffin top is usually bulging out.
So you can’t blame me for not wanting to participate, however what I realized after doing the challenge is that you don’t have to be vain to compliment yourself. Nando’s challenge was not about pulling a Reggie Mantle from the Archie comics and to kiss the mirror repeatedly for 8 minutes, but rather it was to compliment yourself on things you have accomplished and for the goals you are actively trying to reach.
So this morning, I snuck out of bed (making sure not to wake Sabrina) and went to the bathroom and looked at the mirror. I realized after 5 seconds this was going to be my biggest challenge because I had to stifle the roaring laughter that was about to come out.
It was then I realized how uncomfortable I was about giving myself compliments. Even receiving them has always made me slightly uncomfortable and in order to become a better person–I needed to be more confident and (GULP) learn how to love myself.
So I took a deep breath, closed my eyes and opened them and I treated the mirror like I would have if it was a dating personals ad. This is what I said:
“I feel like a successful writer. My words matter to my readers.”
“I enjoy the little things.”
“I am the funkiest person out there.”
“My cooking turns on my girlfriend.”
“I am an excellent multi-tasker.”
Well after I had said the last point, I hadn’t noticed that Sabrina had snuck out of bed and was eavesdropping by the doorway.
“Please, Please, Please tell me you are not talking to your dick.” she replied on the other side of the door.
I opened the door and we both stared at each other for three seconds and burst out laughing.
I tried to tell her what it was for, but she had already knew.
“Yeah, yeah. I know what’s it for. Now “Mr.Funky,” I need to make myself a better me and take a pee. ” she said as she smirked at me and pushed me out of the bathroom.
So although I didn’t complete the task for the day, I walked to my living room and looked at the mirror there for one last time and said a compliment that I was really confident about.
“I’m a good boyfriend.”
So what I learned today that sincere compliments about yourself are powerful tools. You can learn something new about yourself by just saying the words out loud. However, there is a huge difference between loving yourself and being IN love with yourself. So remember, compliments are good–as long as they are directed at the things you have achieved rather than the looks you received.
So are you going to “wear your crown” today? Let me know in the comment section below!