8th Day To A Better You: How Your Unreasonable Actions Online Hurt Your Love Lives

by on Wednesday, April 18th, 2012 - 2 Comments - Break Ups, Confessions

avoid-FacebookLast night was a bad night.

If you are well-aware of the women in my life, then you know about the past troubles I have had with my mentally unstable ex-girlfriend who refuses to let go.

The last time I had talked about her on this blog was right before Christmas, where she was forced to move back to Quebec and had to go to therapy. (Click here for more details.)

For a second there, I thought that hitting rock bottom would help her evolve and help her move on.

Boy, was I wrong.

Last night, I had opened a private Facebook message from ironically another guy named Jimmy.  Because he was so illiterate, it took me over half an hour to figure what he was trying to say in the message, but basically from what I gathered, he is my ex’s new boyfriend and he threatened my life as well as the life of my girlfriend’s for payback for hurting my girlfriend emotionally and physically. (Yes, physically.)

What the f*ck.

Well, obviously the counseling hasn’t helped any and it has now only fueled her fire.  So last night, I printed out the nearly incoherent Facebook message and went to the police station to make a report.

Normally, I would have just deleted this message and went on with my life because I ain’t no snitch.  However, now that that my girlfriend’s life has been threatened by some illiterate self-claimed gang-banger, I had to do what’s right.

While sitting there waiting endlessly to talk to an officer, I started thinking about one of Nando’s latest challenges for the 25 Days To A Better You Challenge which was about how we should resist making unreasonable actions in our lives in order to improve ourselves.

It made me think about how social media has really “paved the way” for constant unreasonable actions certain women make in their love lives.

Although a lot of women (and even men) don’t pull some of the insane things my ex has pulled online, there are many instances where people do something online outside of their usual patterns that make them look just as crazy as my ex is.

Ladies, if you want to avoid looking like crazy broads, stop making these unreasonable actions online a reality:

Using Wotwentwrong.com

Have you ever heard of Wotwentwrong.com? If you haven’t, then you’re in for a treat.  It’s a website that wrongfully makes money off heart-broken people. If you have been dumped, the website lets you send a survey to the dumper, so you can find out why they dumped you. I’m telling you right now, if you do this, you will not only come off like a desperate and pathetic ex–you actually WILL be desperate and pathetic. This is not conducive to you or to your emotional well-being.

Creating Fake Profiles On Social Media Accounts To Cyber Stalk Your Ex

Man, I miss the days of MSN. If you do not know what that is, it is basically the Canadian equivalent to AIM. Anytime your ex would harass you, you could instantly block them and because we were less egotistical back then, we would rarely accept friend invites from people we didn’t know. Well now with Facebook, exes are actually creating fake profile simply to see their ex’s relationship status, their tagged photos and of course to cry over how pretty their new girlfriends are. If you think turning yourself into the “Catfish” woman so you can trash your ex on his wall is normal, then you have a major problem.  Also, if you actually believe that he has no idea what you are doing, then you are more deluded than I thought.

You’re Always Narrowing Down Your Type On Dating Personals Sites

Now that online dating is less taboo, a lot of people are finding dates on dating personals sites. There is nothing wrong with that, but what is wrong  is narrowing down your type instead of being open to more possibilities.  I have a theory about “types.”  Most people would say that the type of person they are most attracted to resembles the first person they fell in love with, but really if you think about it, they really resemble the first person who first broke their hearts.  Although no one would ever admit it, most people pursue doppelgangers of their exes hoping that their clones will be able to correct the mistakes their ex made in the past.  If you’re looking for a “type,” then you are stuck in the past.  Plain and simple.

Writing Pitiful Quotes On Twitter or on your Facebook Wall

We all have bad days.  We all have bad breakups. But what differentiates a mature person from an immature person is self-control especially when it comes down to social media accounts.  When you put a quote down on your Twitter and Facebook about how broken-hearted you are, you should know that no matter how many comments or likes you get, that you really just look like a self-piteous attention-seeker.  I know in the past there were women I was attracted to and was instantly turned off when I saw how they display for all to see how sad they are about a break-up.  It’s okay to feel sad–just don’t broadcast it.

Sending E-cards To An Ex

Many women would say that they send e-cards for special occasions to exes just to show they can still be friendly. But let’s talk about the REAL reason why you ladies send e-cards. Is the reason because you really want to send a special birthday greeting to your ex or is the real reason why you send e-cards is because you know that sending a message through a third party is guaranteed to end up in your ex’s email box—even if they had personally blocked all the email addresses you created? Do you do it because you feel like you did a selfless deed or because you get a rush when you get an automated message saying that they had opened your card?

Trust me, if I know about this–a lot of other guys know about it too.

I know a lot of you make think I’m the biggest dick on the face of the planet for writing this list, but I just don’t want any of you lovely and intelligent ladies to follow in my ex’s footsteps. 

The best advice I can give you, is from Nando himself.  1. Identify Your ‘IN THE BOX’ behavior.  2. IDENTIFY THE OUT OF THE BOX BEHAVIOR and 3. SET YOUR REASONABLE ACTIONS IN MOTION.

Now if you excuse me, I have some excess baggage to take care of…..


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2 Responses to “8th Day To A Better You: How Your Unreasonable Actions Online Hurt Your Love Lives”

  1. Monique says:

    I never heard of that website but because I am who I am I so wish I had someone to send the survey to. LOL how do you find these things?

  2. She Traces says:

    That first website sounds so ridiculous. Wotwentwrong is that the developers couldn't spell in the first place.

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